Monday, June 20, 2005

I'm skerred!

I just watched a great show on Discovery Health about home and birthing center births. You know, a la natural. Secretely, or not so secretely, a dream of mine but I've never been more scared in my life. These women, all of them, screamed at the top of their lungs as if someone was sawing their head off w/dental floss. And that was just during the contractions. I don't even want to talk about what they were like when the baby was actually coming out.

How come I have yet to see a natural birth that doesn't sound like it could be a sound bit from the horror movie Saw? I want to go natural I really, really do but when I see someone deliver with an epidural and then another without one a little bit inside me dies each time. Must...stop...watching...Discovery. All I'm asking is show me one natural birth where the woman kept her composure at least a LITTLE!


Blogger KELLI BELLY said...

I remember watching those! Don't worry though. Plenty people go natural. You'll know exactly what to do at the time;0)

3:19 PM  
Anonymous Carol said...

If you can stand a recommendation, I *highly* recommend "Birthing From Within". It's a totally "crunchy" book and even though I am crunchy myself, a lot of it was just too crunchy for me, lol. But I believe that it was that book alone that gave me the courage to birth naturally. It's also got some excellent pain management techniques.

Oh, and another great one is Ima May's Guide to Childbirth (or something like that). *Great* birth stories in it. Ones that won't scare the beejeezus out of you.

That said, stop watching those shows, LOL! My natural births have been nothing like those. Drama sells, ya know? ;)

3:49 PM  
Blogger moi said...

Well I can't show you my birth, but it was drug free and I didn't scream and yell like I was dying. I didn't feel like I was, either. Sometime soon I'll post my birth story to my blog...

4:36 PM  
Blogger dakotablueeyes said...

Each birth is different remember that. lol I had both my kids natural. With my daughter I was induced and the contractions hurt like hell, having her was pretty much nothing didn't scream too bad, maybe a couple times, with my son, he was posterior, head facing my back instead of front, lower back pain, his contractions were nothing but having him hurt like hell, screamed more with him than with her. lol So you know it may go smoothly for you. You will have to let us all know.

4:44 PM  
Blogger Mrs. Flinger said...

Um.. yea.. see, I had to MAKE myself stop watching those. There was one point Mr. Flinger came home and I was CRYING. "Uh.. do you know where BABIES COME FROM?!"

Yea.. I hear ya.. And don't feel the need to keep your compsure.. at least you'll know you're not alone. :-)

5:54 PM  
Blogger Jojo said...

Remember it does not make good TV if mom-to-be is not dramatic and screaming. Who really wants to see a calm and composed mother birthing her child? (except you of course!). I gave birth to both of my children naturally and yes I screamed - like a hyena!... AND it was the most amazing, empowering, beautiful experience of my life, always will be. Don't be scared of it, embrace it - you'll be amazed what your own body can do.
(a little corny I know! but ture)

7:06 PM  
Blogger Melinda said...

My epidural with my first son did not take and i did some screaming. Alot of my screaming tho was done to keep from holding my breath It was almost like realeasing the pain. With my second son my epidural worked and i still screamend the whole time! Now my labors were long and echausting and my boys were big boys! But every woman is different as is every labor! My mom had six kids and 3 of us came fast with little pain ( um that would be the 3 girls i must point out, lol) and her 3 boys she says hurt like hell, they came into the world being a pain in the ass! LOL BUt yea dont watch those shows. When i was prego if i watched them they always gave me one more thing to be scared about! Also remember screaming isnt always a sign of how much pain they are in, it may just be part of their personality and how they deal with pain. Some people cry, some yell some remain very very focused

8:25 PM  
Blogger KB said...

I had my first all natural & my second was induced and I had an epidural. Honestly I can say I'm glad I have experienced both although I wouldn't choose natural again. I'm all for the epidural. I see nothing wrong with it, I loved it and I was happy and stressfree for probably 75% of my labor. My son was actually way more alert than my first one, which was natural. Both births were 4 hours from the time I knew I was in labor to the time I was holding my sweet baby. So there you have a more positive take on the epidural(not to mention the length isn't always 8+ hrs, and I also didn't need any stitches either time.)

It annoys me when people look down on women who use epidurals, who has the right to tell any woman what they should/shouldn't do. My thoughts would be to have the plan to go natural and be realistic, it's going to be painful but you can do it. But also know your options and don't feel bad if you decide to take the more comfortable route. It by no means makes you less a woman or a lesser mom, it just means you were more comfortable.

Best Wishes and like Kelli said you'll know what's right for you when the time comes.

11:17 PM  
Blogger sweetney said...

umm, dude, it hurts like someone is TEARING YOUR INSIDES OUT. i'm not trying to scare you, i'm trying to warn you. everyone is different, but for me the pain was excruciating and unbearable; i was reduced to quite literally BEGGING for help, screaming and screeching like a wild animal. i think there is a conspiracy of silence about how bad the shit really is, and i refuse to abide by that. even if you wanna do natural, have an epidural ready. maybe it won't be as bad for you, and kudos if you can do natural, but DON'T BET ON IT. /thus endeth my preaching, now and forever.

7:58 AM  
Anonymous Darlene said...

I can't relate...I had an epidural at 3cm..I was being induced, so my doc said I could have it whenever I wanted it. The natural thing scared me too much. Like you, I watched those shows and was completely freaked out! For me, the only way was with an epidural, but to each your own.

I have seen a few episodes of Baby Story on TLC where they had the baby at home in a pool thingy and they were pretty calm. So maybe try watching Baby Story instead of Discovery..LOL

BTW, thanks for commenting on my blog! :)

10:22 AM  
Blogger Candice said...

Everyone deals with pain differently. I certainly didn't make a peep during my births. I found that breathing deep and concentrating on relaxing were alot more productive than scrunching up my already clenching muscles to scream. And really, it's not so bad until the transition period, right before you start to push. Just when you think you can't possibly deal with anymore, it's time to push. And trust me, that is the BEST time of labor, because you get to DO something about the pain. It actually feels better. Like pushing on a swollen gum when you have a tooth coming in, for instance. Or scratching a bug bite.

12:36 PM  

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