Wednesday, June 29, 2005

Diamond in the rough

fake ring vs. real ring

By popular demand (alright so just 1 request) here is a picture of my new wedding band on the left and the too-tight original on the right. Bryan would like me to point out the real one has the bigger diamonds because we all know that's what this world is about. It's just cute he's proud.

It's funny how so many people felt weird without their rings when pregnant. I don't know why I did. I just feel like strangers pre-judge and look down upon me enough, I didn't want them to have any other reason to. It was especially weird when I was WITH Bryan and he had his on, I felt like the mistress he got knocked up. If I saw a pregnant girl without a ring on, I would never give it a second thought and I really don't care if someone did think I was an unwed mother-to-be. I don't see anything wrong with that! I guess I don't have a good reason for feeling like something was missing but I'm not gonna lie, it did bother me! I really like my faux ring and would like to keep wearing it on my right hand later but I'm hoping my fingers will return to their normal size at some point.

I woke up with a headache and very grumpy again like I did on Monday, the day my blood pressure was high. So I was thinking of walking over to the grocery store to do the little free blood pressure check but I decided I could benefit from more sleep anyway. So I laid on my left as long as I could since that should take care of any sleep deprivation and high blood pressure. Just lately though I go numb when I lay on my left. I guess it's because I'm getting heavier by the second. And my knee hurts! It's always something with my legs. But I think the reason is because the dr. lady told me to lay on my left to keep the BP down but to also elevate my feet above my heart to help with the swelling. I even confirmed I should be doing this at the same time. So if you were on the couch, basically lay flat on your left with your feet up on the arm rest. Which may help with that other stuff but in turn jacks your knees up because your all bent up and shit.

Bryan said my face looks funny today but he couldn't pinpoint why or what. I am wondering if it suddenly swelled up a lot and sad to say I have YET to look in a mirror today. Maybe I should go check it out! I got the mama coming over for dinner in 4 hours (I decided against making the labor inducing eggplant parm) so I'll have to look in the mirror eventually. But first...more chocolate rice cakes. (Christa you need to get some of these. I'm not sure if you'll find them as tastey but a lot more guilt free than Ben & Jerry's (although that IS a good source of calcium!)

This belly has to go, quick. It's getting injured more and more now. I have a big (read 1 inch) gash on it and not sure where that came from unless the baby is trying to claw his way out. And I just burnt my belly button stump on a pot as I tried to reach above the stove for something. Maybe that'll teach the belly button from popping out again, it has no place being on the outside!


Blogger Elaine said...

Oh, you do sound cranky! I once read that if pregnancy was a book, they'd cut the last chapter. Honey, sounds like you're ready to edit.

Hang in there, mama. You’re in the home stretch!

12:31 PM  
Blogger dk said...

I don't think I ever thought of not having a ring the first two times I was pregnant. I wasn't married and I wasn't ashamed. I loved my husband just as much then as I do now.

But when I had my rings and I was pregnant with my boy I definitely found myself holding my left hand up more.

2:33 PM  
Blogger moi said...

I hated going without my ring too.. both because I like wearing it and because I worried a bit about being judged, though, now that you bring it up I realize I've never looked for a wedding ring on a pregnant lady. Though that doesn't mean there aren't ppl who do.

2:34 PM  
Blogger dakotablueeyes said...

Lovely rings, both of them. I never took mine off, so of course they wouldn't come off after cause I still have a fat arse so had to have them cut off and resized. What a pain in the arse, anyway, loosing some of the weight finally, yeah three years later I decided to motivate my arse to get it moving. lol

4:48 PM  
Blogger pretendingsanity said...

I'm sorry, but it's too stinkin funny, your burnt your belly button!!! ha ha ha. Mine never stuck out, so I can't sympathize.

5:51 PM  
Blogger KELLI BELLY said...

I use to hate when my belly button would rub up against things, it felt gross! The fake ring is really pretty. Girl now your really iced out and shit. I love your real set though! "Everytime I come around your city, BLING, BLING"

7:40 PM  
Blogger Anne said...

you know, i never had to worry about the ring thing because I never got 'the ring' just the band (we were po'). I do, however, totally remembering burning my oversized balloon belly more than once on the goddamned teakettle. You know 2nd degree burns just suck.

10:51 PM  
Blogger Daph said...

First of all, thanks for the link, homey! I'm gonna march my ass down to the store and see if I can't rustle up some chocolatey rice goodness. YUM!

And secondly, I am sooooooooo with you on the ring thing. See... Bryan and I weren't officially married when I a)got pg with Phoebe and b) had the baby. So I bought a fakey ring off of ebay that I could wear to make myself feel better, but also to show other people that indeed I was in a committed relationship. I know it's totally dumb of me, but I was sick of all the looks and the stares. Maybe if I had actually been married I would've felt more secure, but I wasn't. I was pregnant and emotional and I wanted a damn ring, dammit! LOL

Anyway, they're both beautiful, and you can tell Bryan that yes, the real one *is* bigger, and he's a fine husband. :D

11:40 AM  
Blogger Candice said...

I left my wedding ring at my inlaws house, and I had been in Modesto for like 2 weeks without it. It was awful!! I already get people thinking I am a teenage mom (I am not, nor have ever been) but then they're looking for the ring...!! I went to a restaurant with just my boys and me for lunch and it was like motherhood mayhem. A lady actually pointed! (Is there anything wrong with me going to lunch with just the kids? I wanted some mexican food dammit!)It's weird, like I really don't give a rat's ass what people think about me, but when you know they're looking and what they're thinking, doesn't it make you want to scream??! Becuase you know they are judging you. I would never have been so inclined to look for a ring on ANY mother before this whole motherhood thing. People are lame. Hey you know what, by the way, a big preggo belly is a lot better than the squishy bread dough that comes after!!

3:16 PM  
Blogger Candice said...

Oh, my disclaimer: I have nothing against teen moms whatsoever. I was unmarried with my first (and no boyfriend around either) so at the time, it was my way of making myself feel better about being a single mom. All the teen moms I knew could always say to me, "yeah well at least I'm married". Whatever, none of it really matters anyway. All that really matters is what kind of parent you turn out to be, and how you take care of those little darlings. Isn't that the whole point?

3:21 PM  

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