Thursday, May 12, 2005

The dealio

I talked to my employer and they were OK with me working 2 days from home. I couldn’t believe how bad the timing was. I was all set to talk to my boss after our departmental meeting but in that meeting they requested the team to put in extra hours (temporarily). And here I am with a letter in my hand asking to cut back but they were still cool about it. I do think that will help and it’s a nice trial run to see how disciplined I am working from home. They were all for working remotely after I originally brought up how my doctor wants me to have reduced hours. (I totally put it on my doctor and played up the chance that if they don’t work with me I could end up on bed rest even though that’s very unlikely, they don’t need to know that though).

My main concern with my stress and overload at work was that there are days when I can hardly eat or drink because I’m so busy. Last Friday I kept getting dizzy and probably drank 1 oz of fluid the entire work day. That’s not cool. I’d try to scarf down food in between but I couldn’t eat as much as I should (well, wanted to). I am putting in extra hours still this week until we can make it past this current release. They generously suggested that we COULD work this weekend. At least they aren’t demanding about it but we all know we won’t be able to get it done if we don’t. But fuck it, my baby shower is Saturday and then I’ll want to take the rest of the weekend spending time with the out of town family. I’m not gonna stress about work this weekend. So I figure I’ll try to put in some extra hours during the week but THIS IS THE LAST WEEK I WILL DO IT.

I’m curious to know what others have done as far as when they decided to stop working BEFORE the baby was born. Like should I just work right up until I go into labor? I do have an office job it’s not like it’s physical. I just keep hearing how I won’t be able to or shouldn’t be driving that close to my due date. And there is no way Bryan will drive me 45 minutes each way when he works 2 blocks from our house. I just assumed I’d work until I went into labor but then IF I happen to go into labor at work, I’m not sure what to do. My hospital is at least an hour from my office so it’d be quicker to drive home. I know typically there is quite a long early labor phase and I shouldn’t need to rush to the hospital. But never know!

And what if I get my first contraction at the office and I start to drive home and have another one…will it make me drive off the road?? I have no idea what these things feel like. My ever so helpful mom has been on my back about it already because apparently a woman who was 9 months pregnant swerved onto the median for no apparent reason and died. They think she may have gone into labor (this IS my mom’s version which has a great chance of being totally inaccurate). Ever since this happened my mom has been telling me “you have to stop driving at some point!” I was thinking as it gets closer asking about working 5 days from home. That might be the best option. I don’t know if I would want to stop working any sooner than I have to, I think I’d go crazy with anticipation. As annoying as it is that I’m so busy, it’s making time go by fast!


Blogger The Tremulant Sings said...

Can't you go on maternity leave? You have to stop workjing sometime dear. Christa stopped working as soon as she could, and I think that it was best for her. You have been linked, by the way :)

1:47 AM  
Blogger Daph said...

Hmmm. Maybe you shouldn't listen to me, but I went on maternity leave AS SOON AS I POSSIBLY COULD. It is freakin' tiring being pregnant, and NO I did not want to sit my fat ass in a car and drive to work, with all these crazy mo-fo drivers out there. Not to mention that yes, I had a cake office job, but I sat on my ass all day, so my feet swelled up to the size of baby elephants. Huh. Try working the clutch with THOSE babies!

I'd say to do what makes you feel comfortable, but by all means do NOT feel guilty for taking the time allocated to you. As far as I'm concerned they don't give pregnant mamas ENOUGH time, so I was all about taking what I could get, LOL!

3:12 AM  
Blogger Mama C-ta said...

I wish...I don't qualify for maternity leave until the baby is born and then I get 9 weeks. Well that's PAID maternity...technically I qualify for the family medical leave act which will allow me 12 weeks at any time UNPAID. If I had a legitimate health reason to be out (they don't seem to care if I say I'm gonna go postal) then I'd get short term disability and at least that is 66% paid. I'm going to try to stick it out as long as I can. I want to save any leave I can get for after the birth when I'd have an awesome little baby to hang out with instead of my lonely fat ass.

4:45 AM  
Blogger Anne said...

Well, I worked until the day before I delivered and then worked the day I got back home from the hospital, but I owned my own lab and no one else could do the job for me. It's really just whatever you are comfortable doing. Many women want to take a break as soon and as long as they can and I don't blame them a bit. Being preg. IS tiring. and sweaty. and bloating.

1:33 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

CARA, Can't wait to see you tommorow! And your belly! Aaron's gonna take the babes to another b-day party yay! Anyway see you soon. LOVE, KELLIKILIKIMAKA

3:27 PM  
Blogger Mama C-ta said...

Awww I was looking forward to seeing the gals. Well I'm still looking forward to seeing you!

6:42 PM  

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